![]() My wife’s betrayal - is it the outcome of just hypergamy ? Looking out for a better partner as her animal instinct is in play or is it something more darker than that ? ![]() Now coming back to my own life, does this mating dynamic played a role in my wife’s case ? There are exceptions but if you look at society around you, we might see a lot of examples which establish this. And generally the woman is emotionally detached with her partner before latching on with someone. Whereas female cheating is essentially a byproduct of hypergamy. And the man can be emotionally & physically involved with multiple women. Male cheating is essentially a byproduct of polygamy. This is also cheating because the husband or the earlier partner is unaware about it.īut essentially, all I want to say here is - there is a fundamental difference in how the male cheating vs female cheating works. She emotionally left one guy before getting involved with another guy. She is not equally involved with two men. But in 99% of the cases the woman is not attracted to her husband or partner. Yes, you can find a married woman, involved with another guy. This is definitely a form of cheating.īut you will not find many women who are emotionally & physically involved with multiple men. You will find there are men, who are involved with couple of women. This creates an unique outcome in society. Logically, I would say this is the right thing to do because when you can not buy everything, you should settle for the best option. If there are 10 men, who is the best among the 10 ? Women look out for that. Women tend to look for someone who is best among the pack. That means getting involved with someone who is economically, socially stronger than her.Īnd hypergamy in play is just not marrying someone who is level up than that woman. Whereas women always try to settle for the best and that leads them to something called hypergamy. ![]() This leads to a common psychological framework for men which pushes them towards becoming polygamous creatures. As a result, the man can have multiple offspring and few of them can sustain well by natural selection.Įnd of the day, whether you are a man or a woman your animal instinct wants strong replicas ( kids ) who can survive in future. It is the outcome of evolutionary biology which hardwired in women psychology.Ī man can have sexual interest with many women, as he has pretty insignificant investment of time & commitment if he chose so. If you can not afford to buy a lot of things, you try to be very choosy and buy the right one for you.Īs a result it is not difficult to understand that adult women in their subconscious mind are running a complex selection criteria to search for a good potential partner for their future. Woman wants a man who is physically strong, financially well equipped and with higher intelligence to make sure she gets the best out of a lot.Īnd if you think deeply, it is absolutely logical. I never thought my life would change dramatically in the next 6 months !īut before sharing what happened in my life, let me share what I understood on “ Hypergamy”. I was not sure what he was talking about but thought let’s learn about it just by doing some internet search. He mentioned “ Hypergamy” as a potential reason why women cheat and I was keen to know more. And one day when he was in the town, we met in a coffee shop for a chitchat. Brian was my old buddy in middle school and though we seldom met recently, we always had stories to share.īrian knew about our personal life and the struggle. It was the middle of 2020 and one day I met Brian. You can say, there was no mutual attraction left. She was not interested in intimacy and I was also tired of rejection. It was an excellent time for me to spend time with my son and wife.īut both of us can feel deep down that there was not much passion left in our relationship. I stayed back mostly at home as the technology sector was doing work from home during the pandemic. ![]() Life was not exciting and happy for us but we were together for our son and trying to manage our life for the better.Īnd then covid pandemic happened in 2020. I shared that difficult chapter of my life in an earlier post. It could be a normal phenomenon biologically.Ĭoming back to my own life, I was cheated and betrayed by my wife and there was a lot of tension between us for years. It’s been a debate in sociology whether cheating one’s spouse is very common.
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